Photo by Angela Kirk

Recently Doc and I took a trip to the lake for a few days to rest and reflect. Last year was my first trip to Lake Erie and when Doc took me down to the water’s edge I became frightened by how much water there was, the noise of the waves hitting the rocks and all the birds flying so close as they were diving for fish. But after a day of being around the water and with Doc’s encouragement, I started to like it and even put my paws in the water as we walked along the beach.  As I looked out over the water today I started to think about all I would have missed if I would have let my fear keep me from having a new experience that I now love. So my question to you my gentile readers is this; How is fear holding you back from living your life to the fullest?

It’s easy to get trapped doing the same old thing every day because it feels familiar and safe, even when you wish you had the courage to do something different. Staying stuck in fear keeps us walled off from all the possibilities of living a life to the fullest. Sometimes you just have to move forward even if you are afraid. Doc often tells me that after she has done something that she was afraid of that she finds it was never as bad as she had conjured up in her mind.  She’s right and personally I would rather face whatever I am afraid of than get to the end of my life and have regrets over what could have been. I think the lyrics to the song Already Gone by the Eagles says it the best; “So often time it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key.”

Photo by Angela Kirk

Wayne Dyer once said  “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” No truer words have been spoken. Now let me tell you about some drama that Doc and I almost got pulled in to the middle of.

Of course the problem started with the humans and then we dogs being loyal to our masters felt the need to step forward and back them up. Some neighbors were arguing over goodness knows what as Doc and I were taking a walk down the street. The kids and the dogs were front and center all eyes and ears watching and learning how adults handle conflict. From my view it didn’t look like it was going very well. Lots of yelling and thankfully nothing physical, but no one was really listening to one another. As we got closer I looked up at Doc to see what she would do, ready to jump into action if needed. I noticed the arguing got louder after they saw us, trying to pull us into the fracas. I watched as she assessed the situation and then to my surprise she just kept walking. As I kept trying to strain my neck to see what was going on Doc looked down at me and said ” Mind your own bees-wax Grover, keep walking.”

Upset that she had corrected me, when we got further down the street I asked her why she didn’t intervene. ” After all, aren’t you the queen of conflict resolution?” I ask with a snarky tone in my voice.  ” Not every conflict is our conflict to resolve Grover” she said calmly as she went on to explain, ” If someone was being physically harmed or in danger I would have made a different decision, but that was their battle to figure out and resolve. Often the more people that get involved, the more a situation can escalate.”

And you know what? When we returned from our long walk two of the neighbors were talking things out calmly and the other one had walked away. The children and the dogs were back to playing with each other like nothing had happened.

Another important life lesson…sometimes it’s better to stay out of the drama and hopefully the parties involved will work toward a peaceful resolution, forgive, forget and move on without any help from me.

Photo by Angela Kirk

Since tomorrow is the 243 birthday of the United States, I decided to brush up on my United States history by reading the Declaration of Independence. On July 4, 1776 the Continental Congress declared that the thirteen colonies of America were no longer subject to British rule and were now free and united.  ” We hold these truths to be self-evident that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”  After some reflection I couldn’t help thinking that Doc treats me a lot like the king of England had treated his subjects and decided it was time for a revolution. My mistake was bringing that to her attention.

Wandering into her office I found her lost in thought about a patient she had just seen and I asked her if I could have a minute of her time. “Sure Grover, what’s on your mind?” she asked with a smile. ” Well Doc, I have been reading the Declaration of Independence in preparation for tomorrows holiday and I wanted to let you know that according to this document that you are violating some of my rights. I think that it is time to follow the forefathers of this country and dissolve the political bands that have connected us. Further more it is my right as a dog to abolish the current form of oppressive government you have me living under and institute a new government to protect my safety and happiness.”  Without even hesitating she said ” Ok that’s fine.”.  I have to admit I was a little startled by her blase response and then she said, ” You know that means you will have to set up your own government, provide for yourself, live somewhere else, buy your own food, and pay your own bills don’t you?”

I sat there is silence for a moment and said, “Well I guess I never thought it all the way through Doc.” ” How about a compromise? she asked. You tell me the changes you would like to see and we will come up with a plan. That’s how democracy is supposed to work she said. Remember Grover, it’s always important to tell me how you are feeling. I am not a mind reader you know. Now let’s go home and get ready for our 4th of July cook out.” And with that my little revolution ended before it even got started.

Happy Independence Day!